Patience With Others

If Patience is a fruit of the Spirit, and we stay connected to the vine, that fruit should continually grow in us.  But developing patience with others requires some effort on our part!


  1. Game – have everyone write down the most annoying thing that people around them do.  Put the notes in the middle, draw one out and read it. Have everyone vote for who they think wrote it.  Whoever is correct gets a point, the most points at the end of the game wins.
  2. Object Lesson – Call a few members in advance and ask them to portray one annoying habit throughout the entire opening conversation, acting as if they don’t realize they are doing it – click a pen nonstop, sniff a hundred times, talk too loud, clear their throat, one up every story, etc…  During the opening, tell a story while everyone acts out their annoying behavior all at the same time.  See who gets called out as the most annoying person in the room.
    1.  Show the clip of Family Guy where Stuie is trying to get his mother’s attention

Main Points (Choose ONE)

1.  Patience is a choice, not an ability.

2.  Patience requires letting go of the anger in your life.

3.  Patience can be managed through perspective.


“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves withpatience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:12-13)

1.    Patience is a choice, not an ability

  1. Clothe (dress) yourselves with patience –
  2. You can choose the kind of patience you want to “wear” each day
  3. Don’t go out undressed!  Morning prayer time can prevent a lot of unnecessary blow ups.

2.  Don’t let others determine what you wear – you may have to reapply your patience clothing several times a day

1.   Choose to treat people as people with needs instead of objects

2.  People are not just objects that are in your way

3.  Choose to remove yourself from a situation if you’re having trouble overlooking an irritation

 3.      Patience requires letting rid of the anger in your life.

  1. Lengthen your fuse
  2.  Short-tempered people are harsh,  Blow up over small things that don’t matter,  Don’t care who they hurt
  3.  Ruins your witness – with someone you yell at, and someone who watches you do the yelling
  4.  Anger affects us physically:  Causes ulcers and high blood pressure,  headaches, Causes people to grind their teeth causing jaw problems

4.  Anger and unforgiveness rarely affects the other person – it only affects you.   It’s like body odor – although it’s your

problem, everyone else can smell it.  People will go out of their way to avoid you

5.   Patience can be managed through perspective:    Remember the “Golden Rule” (Luke 6:31)   Do Unto Others as you would have them do unto you.  

        1.   Being patient with others allows them to also be patient with you

2.  See people as Jesus sees them

3.  Overlook the annoyance

4.  Look for their potential, not their problems

5.  Think of how many times God has had to be patient with you

6.  Be quick to forgive so God can forgive you

Human Struggles

  1.  It’s easier to feel like a victim than to take responsibility
  2. Anger feels good at the moment, but ultimately prevents us from growing in our patience
  3.  Humans are naturally self-centered, selfish
  4. Overlooking life’s irritating annoyances is hard work and requires constant attention.

Application Helps

  1.  Having patience with a roommate can help you grow that relationship into a friendship
  2. Showing patience with your parents will bring peace to your family
  3. Forgiving someone immediately for cutting you off or for driving to slow in front of you releases you from an entire day of Road Rage
  4.  Being patient with a new Christian can help them grow in Christ without fear of rejection